A Holiday Message

With Hanukkah beginning Tuesday night, and Christmas coming a week from Thursday, I would like to take the time to wish you unlimited joy, gratitude and love during the holiday season and throughout the coming year.

Because I personally celebrate Christmas, I take time to think about its true meaning, which reminds me of a favorite phrase from the Bible.

“This is the day the Lord has made and
we will rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalms 118:24

This is a particularly good time to slow down, take pause and pay attention to what really matters most to you in life. It can be a courageous decision to feel optimistic in the face of challenging circumstances. However, in the end the truth is that you are in charge of your thinking, feelings and actions.

I believe that Christ was a model of unconditional love. But no matter what your religion or belief may be, love is at the core of all of them. This IS the day the Lord hath made. So, rejoice, be glad and work towards loving yourself and others more.

Blessings, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

An Employer’s Guide To Introverts

My recent Q&A with my friend Anna was so well received that I decided to write about introverts in the workplace. It is vital, I think, that managers and co-workers alike fully understand some long-held misperceptions about introverts.

Thanks to Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, these misleading impressions about introverts are slowly being revised. This is particularly important in the workplace where extroverted skills like acting and speaking tend to be valued and introverts are often saddled with negative perceptions like antisocial, loner, not a team player, unenthusiastic, and the like.

The classic distinction between introverts and extroverts, according to Cain, is [Read more…]

Want To Help Someone? Shut Up And Listen! – TED Talk by Dr. Ernesto Sirolli

TED Talk by Dr. Ernesto Sirolli

The title of Dr. Ernesto Sirolli’s TED Talk might sound a bit harsh, but he learned from experience the importance of listening. It was shaped by seven years as a young man in Africa where every project he worked on for his nonprofit failed.

One example of a lesson learned: Currently a sustainable economic development expert, the then-young Sirolli and his colleagues decided to teach the Zambian people how to grow food. They lived in a magnificent, fertile valley close to a river and so it seemed to Sirolli’s group they should have agriculture. “How could they not?” they asked. “We must save the Zambian people from starvation,” they declared. And so, [Read more…]

The Importance of Trust –
Part 2: Relationship Trust

Relationship Trust

The second article in my “trust” series is focused on relationships. The first one – Self-Trust – focused on the very important issues of credibility, self-respect and trusting yourself.

In relationships, trust is established through one’s consistent behavior. Actions and non-verbal communication matter much more than words — it’s not what you say, it’s what you do that counts. Consistent and reliable behaviors are building blocks for creating relational trust — a foundation that promotes honest conversation and genuine understanding. [Read more…]

The Importance of Trust –
Part 1: Self-Trust

Self-Trust

“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance

I cannot stress enough the importance of building self-trust. To build trust with others, we must first start with ourselves. A lack of self-trust will undermine our ability to trust others. Although friends and family may be there for us, ultimately we have only ourselves to count on.

Here are some ways to help in the building of self-trust. [Read more…]