Three T’s of Close Relationships

Why are some relationships closer, more connected and ‘cleaner,’ than others? Clean means no secrets (overt or covert), no withholding, straight, honest and kind communication. A friendship requires reciprocity where each person is free to be themselves and say what’s true is rare. Common interests and shared experience certainly provide connection and enjoyment. However, that […]

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Teen Talk

“Oh … never mind! I don’t want to talk about this anyway.” Have you ever heard this from your teenager? It can be exasperating to get your teen talking. Think about why they don’t open up to you. Seek first to genuinely understand what they are saying. Show them respect by paraphrasing their meaning and […]

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Arguing Can Be Good for Relationships

Have you ever been surprised when a conversation escalates into an argument? Do you know that arguing can actually be good for your relationship? Of course, it depends on how partners argue. Elizabeth Bernstein’s article, “Fighting Happily Ever After” (Wall Street Journal, July 27, 2010) illustrates that there is a right way to fight and […]

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Misunderstood?

People are generally sloppy about how they communicate with each other. So, it should be no surprise when misunderstandings or misperceptioins occur. The results? Grief, aggravation and wasted time and, all too often,damaged relationships. In order to communicate clearly, you must know what you really mean. First,

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