Three Magic Words: “Great Job, Self!”

We all have internal conversations. Take a minute and think about what you’ve said to yourself today. Was it critical? Was it helpful? How did you feel after this experience? Because our thoughts are the source of our emotions and mood, the conversations we have with ourselves can be destructive or helpful. Their influence on […]

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How To Talk Politics Without Drawing Blood

Do You Really Want to Get Along? Well, we have elected a new president, emotions are still running high and the country is divided. There are those of us who are encouraged and hopeful, and those who are angry and frightened. What about you? Are you interested in understanding, or at least acknowledging, the validity […]

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Talking Politics! Can We Still Be Friends?

  It’s no secret that emotions are running higher than usual this election year. We have two flawed candidates and much is at stake. All U. S. citizens have the privilege and the responsibility to vote — in this case for our next president. If we seek out discussions about the election or happen upon […]

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10 Ways To Have A Better Conversation – TED Talk by Celeste Headlee

Longtime National Public Radio host Celeste Headlee shares what she has found to be the ingredients of a great conversation: “Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy dose of listening.” Taking each of these qualities seriously and adding a healthy dose of humor, Headlee talks us through her 10 Rules. She does address the fact that every […]

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A Tale of A Contaminated Relationship

The Story And The Problem A recent professional experience with two brothers (David and Keith) in business together reminded me of the importance of ongoing, clean and clear communication. When this doesn’t happen, subsequent conversations and interactions become contaminated by emotion and confused by historical experience and expectations. It began during a negotiation when older […]

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Can Arguing Strengthen Relationships? You Bet It Can!

Have you ever been surprised when a conversation escalates into an argument? Welcome to the human race! But, wait! Before you shut down or attack, take a moment to understand what really happened. Consider it as an opportunity to strengthen the relationship. Here are a few things to do quickly. (PS: I don’t promise that […]

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