It’s Not What Happens That Matters So Much. It’s How We Handle Things and What They Mean to Us That Count.
Here are related ways to think about this lesson:
- Do not allow experiences or other people to define you.
- Don’t suffer for nothing, learn something.
- Traumatic experiences can be learned from, then released.
- You can’t un-ring a bell or erase an experience.
Here’s a summary of this life lesson:
We have little or no control over many things that happen in life, including accidents, illness, bad luck, and genetics. We may be truly powerless. People need to make sense of things. When we cannot, we tend to attribute meaning because not knowing is uncomfortable and disconcerting. All we can do is manage our own thoughts and behavior. Knowing the difference between what we can control and what we can’t is critical to maintaining equilibrium and focus. Our ability to function in reality, to know what is true, and to think objectively helps us create a life that’s meaningful, purposeful, and joyful.
Ask yourself, “To get unstuck, I need to learn how to . . . “
Click on the skill you’d most like to learn! Use these skills in your daily life. Notice your progress! Then add another skill from this or another lesson.
Writing helps you sort out your thoughts.
We've written a series of questions so you can dig deeper and get unstuck.
And we created two ways for you to do it, depending on how you work best:
IF you like to write your thoughts on paper, then print out our form, fill it out, and keep it in your journal. If you wish to share it with Esther, then scan it or take a picture of it with your phone and send it to her at her email address.
[Printable Document Coming Soon]
OR you may like to type instead of write, so we've created a form that you can fill out and have sent to you. Then, if you'd like to share it with Esther and get some personal counseling, simply reply to the email!
Remember, the content you write in this form is confidential. It is emailed to you (to the email address you supplied) and nobody else.
If you wish to have Esther consult with you on your answers, then simply reply the email once you receive it. (Instructions are in the email along with your answers.) Esther may provide a simple reply or suggest further reading, a group session, or personal counseling, and it's completely up to you at that point how you would like to proceed.