Here are related ways to think about this lesson:
All we can do is all we can do.
Behave in a way that leaves you with no regret.
Do not be defined by another person or a situation outside of your control.
Here’s a summary of this life lesson:
You will never forget a horrendous experience. Acknowledge this reality, feel your feelings, do your best to make sense of the experience, learn from it, and celebrate that you have survived the trauma. You made it through the worst part.
Now it’s time to repair the damage. When you have endured enough anger, pain, and fear, you may be strong and ready to create a life of joy, meaning, and purpose. Many resources can help you, including the many proven skills in Getting Unstuck. When you learn and practice them, you will find that they really work. Other actions include enlisting a supportive companion, expressing your feelings in writing, and contacting Esther Bleuel or another professional therapist for help.
Your story can have a strong ending. Go for it! Life is just waiting for you to grasp it.
Ask yourself, “To get unstuck, I need to learn how to . . . “
Click on the skill you’d most like to learn! Use these skills in your daily life. Notice your progress! Then add another skill from this or another lesson.
Writing helps you sort out your thoughts.
We've written a series of questions so you can dig deeper and get unstuck.
And we created two ways for you to do it, depending on how you work best:
IF you like to write your thoughts on paper, then print out our form, fill it out, and keep it in your journal. If you wish to share it with Esther, then scan it or take a picture of it with your phone and send it to her at her email address.
[Printable Document Coming Soon]
OR you may like to type instead of write, so we've created a form that you can fill out and have sent to you. Then, if you'd like to share it with Esther and get some personal counseling, simply reply to the email!
Remember, the content you write in this form is confidential. It is emailed to you (to the email address you supplied) and nobody else.
If you wish to have Esther consult with you on your answers, then simply reply the email once you receive it. (Instructions are in the email along with your answers.) Esther may provide a simple reply or suggest further reading, a group session, or personal counseling, and it's completely up to you at that point how you would like to proceed.