Getting Unstuck

Dig Deeper

Deciphering Our Childhood Is Not About Vilifying Our Parents. It’s About Understanding Why We Are the Way We Are.

About Forgiveness

Here are related ways to think about this lesson:

  • All you can do is all you can do. You cannot control or change another person.
  • It’s reasonable to expect that parents will keep you safe.
  • Traumatic experiences can be survived, learned from, and released.
  • You can learn not to be the prisoner of your emotions and history.

Here’s a summary of this life lesson:

The earliest years of life are critical for a child. During those years, the brain programs itself to support discovery of the world and the self in relationship to others. Home is the child’s primary environment. When protected and nurtured, a child feels secure and can learn and thrive. Since children are hard-wired to survive, they will adapt to their circumstances to get their basic needs met. Their experiences with adults form long-lasting impressions of roles, attitudes, and values.

We know our parents thought they did the best they could, even when their best was not good enough. That’s understandable and quite normal. Unfortunately, unhealthy, learned attitudes and behaviors can be devastating and have lasting consequences. At the same time, irresponsible or incompetent parenting is not an excuse for our own bad behavior or failure.


Ask yourself, “To get unstuck, I need to learn how to . . . “

Click on the skill you’d most like to learn! Use these skills in your daily life. Notice your progress! Then add another skill from this or another lesson.


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Writing helps you sort out your thoughts.

We've written a series of questions so you can dig deeper and get unstuck.

And we created two ways for you to do it, depending on how you work best:

IF you like to write your thoughts on paper, then print out our form, fill it out, and keep it in your journal. If you wish to share it with Esther, then scan it or take a picture of it with your phone and send it to her at her email address.

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OR you may like to type instead of write, so we've created a form that you can fill out and have sent to you. Then, if you'd like to share it with Esther and get some personal counseling, simply reply to the email!

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Remember, the content you write in this form is confidential. It is emailed to you (to the email address you supplied) and nobody else.

If you wish to have Esther consult with you on your answers, then simply reply the email once you receive it. (Instructions are in the email along with your answers.) Esther may provide a simple reply or suggest further reading, a group session, or personal counseling, and it's completely up to you at that point how you would like to proceed.