Here are related ways to think about this lesson:
- It’s not what happens that matters so much. It’s how you handle things and what they mean to you that count.
- Mistakes are opportunities to learn.
- You can’t do what you’ve always done and expect a different result.
Here’s a summary of this life lesson:
When we do something wrong on purpose, it’s not a mistake. A mistake is something gone wrong accidentally. Everyone makes mistakes. We often learn more from mistakes than from success since a mistake often leaves a monetary, physical, or emotional price to pay. If the consequence of a mistake causes you to suffer in one of those three ways, be sure that you learn from it. Repeated “mistakes” cannot be regarded as mistakes because we know in advance that there will be negative outcomes. If we repeat behavior that doesn’t work, we are probably stuck and not ready or able to change.
Ask yourself, “To get unstuck, I need to learn how to . . . “
Click on the skill you’d most like to learn! Use these skills in your daily life. Notice your progress! Then add another skill from this or another lesson.
Writing helps you sort out your thoughts.
We've written a series of questions so you can dig deeper and get unstuck.
And we created two ways for you to do it, depending on how you work best:
IF you like to write your thoughts on paper, then print out our form, fill it out, and keep it in your journal. If you wish to share it with Esther, then scan it or take a picture of it with your phone and send it to her at her email address.
[Printable Document Coming Soon]
OR you may like to type instead of write, so we've created a form that you can fill out and have sent to you. Then, if you'd like to share it with Esther and get some personal counseling, simply reply to the email!
Remember, the content you write in this form is confidential. It is emailed to you (to the email address you supplied) and nobody else.
If you wish to have Esther consult with you on your answers, then simply reply the email once you receive it. (Instructions are in the email along with your answers.) Esther may provide a simple reply or suggest further reading, a group session, or personal counseling, and it's completely up to you at that point how you would like to proceed.