Here are related ways to think about this lesson:
- It’s not what happens that matters so much. It’s how you handle things and what they mean to you that count.
- You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
- You change when you are ready and not a moment sooner.
Here’s a summary of this life lesson:
Learning is a process, not an event. A willing, open attitude prepares us to learn how to learn, so we can grow. We can derive wisdom by reflection and thoughtful consideration of multiple perspectives. When a student is ready to learn, some kind of teacher will appear, either as an individual or an experience. We may learn by example, either positive or negative, without engaging in that behavior ourselves. Awareness and insight, though, are not sufficient. Unless we apply a given lesson in our own daily lives, we will not change.
The power of experiential learning cannot be overstated. When we think, speak, or take an action, our brain programs itself to remember. Learning, knowing, and becoming wise are not passive. They are active, engaging experiences that become ours. Once we create an experience for ourselves, our brain can re-create and practice the activity. If we can do something once, we can do it twice.
Ask yourself, “To get unstuck, I need to learn how to . . . “
Click on the skill you’d most like to learn! Use these skills in your daily life. Notice your progress! Then add another skill from this or another lesson.
Writing helps you sort out your thoughts.
We've written a series of questions so you can dig deeper and get unstuck.
And we created two ways for you to do it, depending on how you work best:
IF you like to write your thoughts on paper, then print out our form, fill it out, and keep it in your journal. If you wish to share it with Esther, then scan it or take a picture of it with your phone and send it to her at her email address.
[Printable Document Coming Soon]
OR you may like to type instead of write, so we've created a form that you can fill out and have sent to you. Then, if you'd like to share it with Esther and get some personal counseling, simply reply to the email!
Remember, the content you write in this form is confidential. It is emailed to you (to the email address you supplied) and nobody else.
If you wish to have Esther consult with you on your answers, then simply reply the email once you receive it. (Instructions are in the email along with your answers.) Esther may provide a simple reply or suggest further reading, a group session, or personal counseling, and it's completely up to you at that point how you would like to proceed.