Here are related ways to think about this lesson:
- If you say yes, you have to be nice.
- Saying nothing is an implicit yes, giving permission to act.
- Saying yes when you really mean no builds resentment.
- You can’t always believe what people say. You will always believe what they do.
Here’s a summary of this life lesson:
If we agree to something we don’t want to do, or don’t know how to do, we will regret it. We may say “yes” to avoid the consequences of saying “no.” When words and body language don’t match, we perceive the discrepancy and don’t trust the message. We may become resentful or embarrassed later when it becomes obvious that our “yes” was not honest. Because “yes” is an agreement – a promise – it’s important to clarify our understanding of what’s expected before making a commitment. We lose credibility and self-respect when we compromise what’s in our own best interest
Ask yourself, “To get unstuck, I need to learn how to . . . “
Click on the skill you’d most like to learn! Use these skills in your daily life. Notice your progress! Then add another skill from this or another lesson.
Writing helps you sort out your thoughts.
We've written a series of questions so you can dig deeper and get unstuck.
And we created two ways for you to do it, depending on how you work best:
IF you like to write your thoughts on paper, then print out our form, fill it out, and keep it in your journal. If you wish to share it with Esther, then scan it or take a picture of it with your phone and send it to her at her email address.
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OR you may like to type instead of write, so we've created a form that you can fill out and have sent to you. Then, if you'd like to share it with Esther and get some personal counseling, simply reply to the email!
Remember, the content you write in this form is confidential. It is emailed to you (to the email address you supplied) and nobody else.
If you wish to have Esther consult with you on your answers, then simply reply the email once you receive it. (Instructions are in the email along with your answers.) Esther may provide a simple reply or suggest further reading, a group session, or personal counseling, and it's completely up to you at that point how you would like to proceed.